Thursday, August 28, 2008

So proud of my man!

So big news - DH came out of the IF closet and told his family (well some of his family but they have big mouths so I'm sure everyone knows).

I am still in shock and can not even believe while I was in Ve.gas DH attended a family wedding and told his family about our IF. Since we found out about DH's dx, he has felt ashamed, blamed himself and like less of a man. He didn't want anyone to know about it. Most of you may already know DH is the youngest of 12 kids and no one in his family has had any issues conceiving chidren. He has 38 (the 39th is coming in Nov.) nieces and nephews. He felt like his family wouldn't be supportive and make him feel like the runt of the family (whatever that means).

Anyway, on Sat. he attended a wedding w/o me (I was sad to miss it but, they planned it in like 2 months and I already had purchased my non-refundable/non-transferable flight to Ve.gas) and in between the church and reception there was a huge gap so he and his brothers (at least 2) and sisters (4 of them) and their kids went to kill time in one of his brother's apartments. His sister is pregnant and due in Nov. At one point while sitting around he sees his sister's pregnant belly and starts crying. Everyone notices and then he tells them what is going on and that he is having surgery etc.

He said that is was actually a really nice moment and was pleasantly surprised by their support. Every one was in complete shock, then crying and saying they would pray for us. He said they asked how I was dealing with it and he said I was his rock and had shown him what true, unconditional love is (he is so cute, I love this man).

I'm so glad that he is at the point where he feels like he can tell people. I hate that he was keeping it all in (with the exception of his 2 closest friends and our acu). He has nothing to be ashamed off. I hope this means that he is coming to terms with this. I am so proud of him, it was a huge step for him. He says he feels lighter :)

I am pretty open about everything and have felt like we were living in the IF closet and now I hope he will get to the point that we can tell my parents what is going on (they know we're having issues but no specifics). One step at a time, but I feel like he just took 2 giant steps forward.

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I'm back from Ve.gas and I had a good time.
Gambled ;), relaxed and went to the spa in the Paris hotel. I got me a salt scrub, massage and pedicure.

We also ate lots of yummy food and saw Ma.m.ma Mi.a at the Ma.nda.lay Bay. It was really good and actually better than the time I saw it on Broadway.

D left for the Bachelor Party weekend in Pu.er.to Ri.co today and I am going to miss him so much. Thank God I have Oreo to keep me company. He is so freaking cute :)

3 comments:

andrea said...

Wow! That is so awesome that your DH was able to share with his family. And what a great family!

Jill said...

Wow! That is just awesome -- I'm sure you are so proud of him! And I'm so glad his family was supportive. :)

Glad you had a relaxing time in Vegas! You deserve it!

Amber said...

I'm so glad your DH finally felt ready to open up and that his family surprised him with their support. I hope he's starting to realize that he has absolutely nothing to be ashamed of.

Glad you had fun (and glad you're home). If I were you I'd enjoy my Oreo time while eating some oreos. They keep good company too. ;)